ALEXANDRA “Alex” CATHLEEN SELF

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Alexandra “Alex” Cathleen Self, age 38, of Elburn, was called home to her Heavenly Father Friday, October 23, 2020. Although too soon, God’s time is perfect and she is now free to fly among the guardian angels. Alex was a beautiful, brilliant, passionate and devoted daughter, sister, mother, and friend. Her kind heart and contagious laugh made a lasting impression on anyone who was fortunate enough to come into her life.

Alex was born in Aurora, June 18, 1982, to joyful and loving parents, Bruce and Margie Self, with older brother, Jason, ready to meet his new sister.  Eighteen months later she would gain the new role of big sister to Jackie.

Alex grew up in Elburn and attended Kaneland schools, where she graduated with the class of 2000. Before receiving her diploma, she left a true legacy of a well-rounded Kaneland Knight.  On top of her academic achievements, she found great success running the trails of the Kane County Forest Preserve, the basketball courts at Kaneland, and the many laps on the Kaneland track. Alex was an All-Area basketball player, ran both track and cross-country, was the 2000 Kaneland Female Athlete of the Year and graduated after garnering 11 varsity letters.  In addition to being dedicated to athletics, she was an active member of many clubs and activities, including Student Council, Kaneland Krier, and National Honor Society.

Alex continued her education at the University of Tampa in Florida where she became a member of Sigma Delta Tau before graduating with a Bachelor of Science degree in 2004.

It was on her first day moving into college that she met Michael “Mickey” Akers. A friendship began and bloomed many years later into a relationship. Through their love, they were blessed with a daughter, Caroline, who Alex loved with all of her heart. She was just the best “mama”.

Alex worked as a commercial real estate agent and project manager in Tampa, FL for six years before returning to Elburn, where she worked for United Parcel Service, assisted her Dad at his law office, and. a most recently worked as a nanny for a local family.

Alex was sunshine itself. Alex’s dream came true the day her sweet Caroline joined this world. Singing Caroline’s favorite songs, reading her favorite stories, laughing together and making faces. She always shined the brightest with her sweet girl.

She was generous to a fault and as genuine as they come, always offering her hand to help and her smile to share. A better friend you will never find, nor one who wore their heart on their sleeve like Alex. Even though sports played a large role in her life through high school, often in the same sport as her older brother, in her more recent years, Alex shined the brightest through her special touch with other children, including her nephews, Owen and Noah, and Godchild, Michael.

Alex had an infectious laugh and boisterous spirit that enlivened every get-together. The wonderful memories she made in her time here on Earth are now the legacy of the Alex we all know and love. Those memories and stories will surely be shared and cherished for generations to come so that Alex will always be remembered with love.

She is survived by her daughter Caroline; her parents Bruce and Margie Self; two siblings: Jason (Melissa) Self and Jackie (Kevin Hagan) Self, her nephews: Owen and Noah Self, her Godparents, Kathy Davis and Ed Smith, Caroline’s father, Mickey Akers, and multiple aunts, uncles, and cousins who loved her deeply.

She is preceded in death by her paternal Aunt Cyndi Thomas and maternal and paternal grandparents: Edward and Elsie Smith, and Clarence and Darlene Self.

Services are planned for Thursday, October 29th from 5:00 p.m. to 7:00 p.m. Due to Covid restrictions visitation is limited to 25 people in the funeral home at one time. A private family memorial service is immediately following. 

10 thoughts on “ALEXANDRA “Alex” CATHLEEN SELF

  1. My thoughts, prayers and love go out to Alex’s family members and friends who are all still trying to cope with this devastating loss. While I feel like I’ve lost a piece of my heart this week, I do find solace knowing my dear friend is in a peaceful place now and will be watching over me to help guide me throughout the rest of my journeys in life.

    I am so blessed to have had many fun adventures with Alex over the years, but some of my favorite memories come from hearing the stories she’s shared since sweet little Caroline came into her life. It was a feeling of pure joy and happiness, and those are the precious moments I will treasure forever.

    I will truly cherish all the great memories we’ve shared and am so thankful for the strong friendship we’ve built over the years. It is an unbreakable bond that I sincerely appreciate and will value for a lifetime.

    I will always remember that unforgettable laugh and sweet, caring tone that could brighten your spirits, even on the worst of days.

    Alex, you will truly be missed but never forgotten.

    Sincerely,
    Tiffany LeBarron-Clark

  2. I am very sorry to hear about the loss of your daughter. There are no words that can heal your pain, but know that I will keep her family in my prayers.

  3. Bruce & Margie I’m so very sorry for your loss. May you find some comfort in all your memories of Alex. My thought & prayers are with all during this difficult time.

  4. Bruce and Margie,
    My heart goes out to you and your family. May Alex rest in eternal peace and may your pain be lessened with may the love of those around you provide comfort and peace to get you through the days ahead. My most sincere condolences.

  5. My heart goes out to your family. May Alex rest in eternal peace and may the love of those around you provide comfort and peace to get you through the days ahead. My most sincere condolences.

  6. Bruce and Margie, we are so very sorry for your loss. My heart broke when I heard of her passing. Alex was such a bright light in a sometimes dark world. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all, and may God provide you all the comfort that Alex is now in his embrace.

  7. Dear Bruce and Family. – I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your beautiful daughter. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.
    Jody Gleason

  8. Bruce and Margie,
    I am so sorry about Alex, I hope u remember me, I lived in elburn I was one of Alex friend in middle school and grade school to. She was a very kindest person. U will have Alex life on in her daughter. Again I am very sorry Alex. I will miss her. She come over to my house and I come over to ur house.
    Natasha Hamilton

  9. Margie and Bruce,

    I am so sorry about Alex she was one of my closest friends when I lived down there. I hope u remember me still. I lived in Elburn and she come over to mine house and I went over to hers?

    I will miss her she was a very good friend to have. Her daughter will live on in her.

  10. Bruce and family, I’m so sorry for your loss. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.

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